Staying sexy and keeping the romance alive is intrinsic to making it last. Nicole Matthias, president of badfun.com, says some ideas to resuscitate romance are:

• Leave a love note -- Leaving a note for your love is a thoughtful and easy way to let them know that you're thinking about them. Just leave a little note on the bathroom mirror, refrigerator, in their briefcase, etc that says something sweet such as "Have a good day!" or "I can't wait to see you tonight" or even "Will be thinking of you today." This unexpected find can not only brighten their day but remind them that you love them.

• Surprise dinner -- Instead of picking up takeout on the way home, plan to make their favorite meal and eat it with the TV off! Light candles and set the table with the good china and get a nice bottle of wine. The time you put into it is what makes it special.

• Send an e-card -- There are lots of sites that offer free e-cards and all it takes is a few minutes during your lunch break to pick one, personalize it and send it off. It's a welcomed interruption to their gazillion junk mail, conference reminder emails and customer emails.

• Lingerie fashion show -- You can do it all in one night or for an entire week. Ladies, you can try on lingerie and do a little runway walk or sexy dance. Keep changing outfits while he admires your body in each one. Add some edibles into the mix for a few outfits or special hands on feature. Gentleman: Pick out some lingerie items that you want to see her in and have her model them for you. We want to know what you like!

• Sexual adventure -- Instead of leaving Hershey's kisses in the shape of a heart on the bed, try chocolate body topping. Make it romantic and sexy by taking your time licking it off their body from top to bottom. When you spend time adoring their body you let them know that you truly care about them and their pleasure.

• Don't wait -- Don't wait for a special occasion to do something romantic. It's almost expected and therefore loses some of its meaning. You want to surprise them with something small but thoughtful that expresses your love in a different way than usual. Reminders of your feelings for your lover won't go unappreciated!

• Bring in some friends -- I'm talking about sexual enhancers, adult toys, or massage oils. Sometimes adding something a little extra can cause you to linger on your lover's hot spots a little longer. There are a number of products that are great for couples. I recommend a vibrating erection ring. It helps him to last longer while providing her with maximum pleasure.

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3. Throw on some hot lingerie, or make your own. (Nothing says dirty games like a naughty school girl ensemble...)
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The right tools are important. But digging deep is important, too.

Lisa Steadman, a relationship journalist for The Breakup Chronicles, and author of It's a Breakup Not a Breakdown (Adams Media Corporation, ISBN-10: 1598691724) says: "Whether you're married for years, have children, and/or just feel the spark is waning, it's important to reignite that spark. You may need a shift in thinking. First, start thinking of your relationship as a third party. You, your partner, and the relationship are all active members of the same triangle. Not only do you and your partner have needs, but your relationship has needs. If you neglect it, you lose the spark."

So how do you reclaim the spark? She advises: "Make time for slowing down, i.e. turn the TV off, set aside time to not talk about the kids, the bills, the debt, work. Talk to the other person about them. Light candles, listen to soft music, touch without being sexual. Just BE together. Kiss. Be kind, nurturing. Give back rubs. Go on a date. Invite play into the bedroom. Whether that's cuddling, toys, sexy lingerie, whatever works for both of you. Don't always make this time about sex. Sometimes in order to get back to sex, you need to first get back to loving and being loved as a couple." She wants you to stimulate your senses to stimulate your sexual and sensual appetites.

According to Dr Cheryl McClary PhD, JD, a women's health professor and the author of The Commitment Chronicles -- The Power of Staying Together (Sourcebooks Casablanca, ISBN-10: 1402206488), men are not motivated by wanting to have a better relationship. They are motivated by:

• Fear - of losing you first, of change second
• Greed: for food first, money second
• Lust: for you and for his toys (I am not sure about the order)

"In a way, men sometimes are like cute pet puppies. A man would much rather roll around in the mud or dig holes in the yard than spend time making his relationship better," Dr McClary says. "Now I am not saying men are like dogs or that they should come panting when you whistle. I am saying that many lessons about living with men can be learned from observing ever-faithful canine companions. All obedience schools are based on the reward system, so it's probably worth applying some of their basic principles."

She says these principles include the following:

• Remember that what you want is a responsive, attentive companion.
• Be persistent and consistent in teaching him what you expect.
• Communicate your needs clearly.
• Model gentle, loving behavior.
• Lavish him with rewards (which will reward you too!)

McClary also has seven tips to keeping romance alive:

1. Have a weekly date night. Take turns deciding what each of you would like to do each time. Have fun being together, just the two of you, for a fe